They are ideologues.

There will be exceptions but I wouldn't expect any dialogue with these people. They are ideologues. And as R' Berel Wein puts it "You should never argue with an ideologue because his is always right." The moment you even attempt to discuss marriage or divorce with an eye towards justice or decency for men they lose it. They are coming from a secular perspective that the Torah is bad for women and just wonderful for men in every way and they must do everything in their power to correct that. And any man who ever, ever for a second advocates for himself or for his kids is obviously a monster and a demon to be shunned and shamed. They are quite sure of this so there's nothing to discuss and certainly not with the likes of you. Interestingly the men are much more vehement than the women, who for the most part are more reasonable if a bit hysterical. Even though their group allegedly works for social justice it really only considers social justice for certain types of people. White Jewish males aren't considered. Again, they take their queues from secular liberalism. My suggestion is that you look at radical Modern Orthodox advocacy groups as a different religion. Dealing with them is the equivalent of ecumenical dialogue. Would you debate Orthodox Jewish marriage with a Christian? Would you discuss it with a Reconstructionist Jew? There are tremendous rifts in the Orthodox world today and it seems more and more that the different sides should just stay away from other. They need a divorce. Hopefully, the radical Modern Orthodox activist crowd will not withhold the get.

"Never question where love comes from.

Leonard Cohen's Advice To Jennifer Warnes About Love
Jennifer Warnes: "I phoned Leonard on the day that my mother – who in many ways was my ‘significant other’ – died. ‘Was that somehow strange, devoting one’s life to one’s mother?’ I asked. His response was impeccable:"
"Never question where love comes from. We have no control over these things. From a stranger, a mother, a dog, or that perfect mate, it comes from wherever it comes. You were lucky, in fact – everyone hopes to find love in the place that you found it."
Source: "Leonard Cohen – as remembered by Jennifer Warnes" by Marcus Webb (Slow Journalism: 7 November 2016) https://goo.gl/nvzm3j

Great comment on a FB group that debated gittin

Alright. That's enough for today. We are not going to get anywhere. I think frum klal yisrael needs to split into two groups - Charedi and Modern. And they should have nothing to do with each other. They should stop writing articles about each other. Just stay apart. Like a divorce. Because they are just too different at this point. Each fills itself with outrage about the other; although I must say that the MO/lefties tend to get more outraged and spend more of their time talking about the Charedim than the Charedim talk about them. There's very little sharing of values anymore. Are the MO going to withhold the get?

you've gotta to decide

"You had to hold your nerve, but then you do in life. You know. You get to all sorts of occasions that throw you and you've gotta to decide I'm going under or I'm going up."

Paul McCartney

don't wait

It sort of made me feel like you have to do that thing you want to do you can't wait.

Suzzana Hoff on John Lennon's death

Swing

Don't change your swing it got you into the big leagues. Change where you stand in the batter's box.
Pete Rose